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Privilege is Your Superpower

The medical team stood around the older woman’s bedside. As one of the students, I prepared to meet my assigned patient. While being assigned to me, Mrs. R. yelled, “I’m not letting that  N*** take care of me!” As the only Black person in the room, her words meant for me hung in the air.  Frozen in place with my heart racing, I fantasized walking out of the room. Without a break in the conversation, my third-year resident, the most senior person on the team, used his superpowers of whiteness, maleness, and seniority to inform Mrs. R. that her bigoted behavior distressed the team. He granted her a choice. She could change her attitude, or we would help her find another hospital. Forty-eight hours later when I arrived at the ward, I learned that she transferred to another hospital in the middle of the night. My third-year resident chose to be my ally. He set a tone for the team and reminded everyone my skin color didn’t allow anyone, including a patient, the right to disrespect and degrade me.  He used his superpowers for good.

There are three prominent aspects of our superpowers.  One,  we all have privileges afforded to us in society. You may be male or tall. You achieved a high level of education or inherited lots of money. You may be socially agile or recognized as being pretty. You may be white. You may be able-bodied or straight. You may have been born in the United States or be a Christian.

The second often frustrating aspect about superpowers is they sometimes allude you.  When you hold a privileged position in society, that privilege offers a buffer to the effects of that social condition.  The advantage becomes the “norm” for you.  One strategy for identifying your privileges is to listen to the stories of those who are at a disadvantage.  Don’t be quick to discount the stories about patients refusing care from the colleague with the foreign accent or sexual harassment continually occurring in the hospital.   Just because it has never happened to you, doesn’t mean it never happens.  These stories are the key to stepping into and owning your privileges and your superpowers!

The third aspect of superpowers is having the discernment for how and when to use your superpower.    The most important thing to realize is when you decide to embark on a courageous act or conversation, you need to understand your role, to act from conviction, not emotion, and to understand the ramifications.

I encourage you to identify your superpower! Imagine you could become the superhero that saves the day on hospital rounds, helps boost team morale, or secures the opportunity to strengthen a special relationship. Remember, everyone has one or more superpowers.   Identify your privileges and commit to using them for good. Advocate for others in situations where their social position, medical condition, race, country of origin, LBGTQ status, disability, size, gender, or rank in a medical setting sets them up for discrimination or harm. I guarantee your life in medicine will be more vibrant with friendships and collegial relationships developing and flourishing for a lifetime. Teams have the opportunity to thrive and do great things for patients and their families. Take some time to reflect on your superpowers, your privileges. Have you used them for good?

5 Day Culturally Competent Mindset Challenge

Starting January 17th, we will begin our 5 Day Culturally Competent Mindset Growth Challenge.  I will be going live for 5 days up to the Martin Luther King, Jr Holiday with a brief activity that will propel you forward in 2019 towards more cultural awareness, capacity for growth, and stronger cross-cultural relationships. Please follow me on my facebook page Culturally Competent Mindset

 

 

cultural competence is a journey not and endpoint

Decisions and Insta-whatevers

I dragged my daughter, a college coed math major and musical theater aficionado to a workshop about creating your ideal life. I had mine- a successful Pediatrician with wonderful colleagues and amazing patients and their families-nearing the end of my career. I had always imagined working into my 80s, older but sprite. But honestly, I recently had joined many of my fellow doctors, dreaming about and counting down to retirement. Let’s face it; the culture of medicine has changed and assembly-line medicine has taken over. It had become harder to “love” the work.

As we sat in the lively workshop, my daughter wrote copious notes on her cellphone. Actually, they were texts and tweets and insta whatevers in rapid fire. I found myself frantically capturing the speakers every word in my journal. This journal would soon become my constant companion. The workshop offered a camp retreat in the Smoky Mountains for relaxation and restoration later in the summer. I turned to my daughter to ask if she’d like to go to camp, she frowned and then declared quite smugly, ” MOM, just go sign up. You know you’re dying to go to camp!” And that was the beginning of this amazing journey that has brought me to this moment. 18 months after the workshop, I am re-creating my ideal life. Instead of picking up a stethoscope and heading into the clinic to work on Christmas Eve ( like several of my professional friends), I am updating my website and listening to a podcast on how to create the ideal funnel.